These are some typical complaints I hear as a certified sex and relationship therapist. Often what lies beneath these complaints is a raw sense of fear, sadness, and hopelessness. The truth is that, most likely, many things are contributing to your wife avoiding intimacy with you. The question is, what can you do about it?
Low sex drive in women - Symptoms and causes - Mayo Clinic
Since our wedding, including the honeymoon, my wife has only wanted sex when we were trying to get pregnant. When I ask her for sex, she becomes very agitated and usually says' 'Fine, lets just get it over with! Last night she asked me why I like kissing. I thought what kind of question is that. She followed up with, 'Don't you think swapping spit is kind of gross? If I walk away from this situation, she gets upset, and if I go through with it, I feel like a donkey's rear end! Things are better now but sex has been an issue since even before we married two years ago.
What to Do If Your Partner Has Lost Interest in Sex
Back to Health A to Z. Try to not feel embarrassed about getting help. Lots of people experience problems with their sex drive and seeking advice can be the first step towards resolving the issue. One of the first things to consider is whether you're happy in your relationship. Do you have any doubts or worries that could be behind your loss of sexual desire?
Women's sexual desires naturally fluctuate over the years. Highs and lows commonly coincide with the beginning or end of a relationship or with major life changes, such as pregnancy, menopause or illness. Some medications used for mood disorders also can cause low sex drive in women. But you don't have to meet this medical definition to seek help.